Facebook Privacy - Part 2: Who else has access to your Info?

Last week I wrote a post about being in control of our privacy settings on facebook, which to my estimation shows how facebook views our privacy and the level of control it gives us.

Recently, again, I was browsing facebook and noticed something I have seen hundreds of times before but never really taken much notice of, until I remembered what I had written about earlier and it slapped me in the face - how had I not realised this all along?

What am I talking about? I am talking about Facebook Apps.

Facebook Privacy: Are You In Control?

There has been much talk about how much (or how little) emphasis facebook puts on privacy. Personally, I have always ensured that I checked my privacy settings on facebook every now and then, but I took it for granted that not everyone understands how the facebook privacy settings works and facebook haven't really done much to rectify the problem either.

All the rage at the moment is how much control we have over our privacy and the obvious 'Big Brother' society. So, it is curious to know exactly how much control we have over privacy on such a simple platform as facebook.

Last night, I was undertaking one of my privacy checks on facebook ensuring there were no (visibly) added changes to the system as often occurs and sure enough there were changes. It was seem that facebook has heard and acted on calls for more understandable privacy settings and have provided a "simpler" format (pre-formatted) of options users can choose from.

The features on facebook now, that allow your friends to see your comments on the pictures and status' of another friend's profile (who they are not friends with), is in itself a testament to how much control we have over privacy. Let's just take a look at the facebook privacy settings page.

Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg on Lack of Female Leaders (Video)

It is one thing to mention a female leader, and receive raised eyebrows, it is quite another to mention that the female in question is the Chief Operating Officer of the largest  social networking site, facebook. Yeah, we all thought Mark Zuckerberg was a one man army at some point.

The question many people ask is why is there such a great lack of female leaders? If there are, many why are they not given exposure to the world in order to inspire other women into action?

"A nation can rise no higher than it's woman," that is something I was brought up believing, and this does not extend to the workforce it extends to all fields of life and living, from birth right up to careers. James Brown sang the words,"this is a man's world
But it wouldn't be nothing, nothing without a woman or a girl."

I sometimes feel women do not realise their potential, they do not realise their power. The ability to create new life is a profound ability, that sets women on a pedestal higher than men in worth and value. The great men we see in society could not be great if it were not for a caring woman, whether that be a wife, a mother, or both.

So when I logged into the TED website and saw this video I thought it would be inspiring and encouraging for other women trying to get up the ladder.

If she can, you all can.

Have a look at the video here:

http://www.ted.com/talks/sheryl_sandberg_why_we_have_too_few_women_leaders.html

Why Innovative teaching is needed - NOW

The following post is an excerpt from my upcoming ebook “Why Do for Parents” – a short and concise guide, which breaks down the thought processes of young people and helps adults – parents in particular – understand why their children act a particular way and provide them with possible solutions.

I won't hold back with a background story, I'm going to say it as it is.
The educational system needs to become more innovative, more exciting and dynamic. Teachers should be able to express themselves freely within the boundaries of a fully fledged educational system.

Young people respond to energy and unfortunately, lessons are not like the adverts for teachers on tv, they are morbid, depressing political speeches that automatically trigger “get-out clauses” and “emergency shut down” procedures in young people.

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On a typical school/college/university day, on twitter you will find many students tweeting about how boring this teacher is, how unexciting their methods are.

It is not a case of changing the entire system, it is a case of injecting impetus, acknowledging that young people are progressing faster than before.

Why do you as a parent need to know this?

You need to know because as a child, school should be exciting, curiosity inciting and in a sense, profound. Is it not normal that a child comes home with an excited look on their face, chomping at the bit to tell their parents what they learned at school?

Businesses: Building Your Social Profile

This is an excerpt from my four-part ebook series, "SocialBiz - Something for Everyone". The book looks at the four main social networking sites and helps everyone understand how they can be utilised for business purposes. Whether you have a large corporation, a small business or even considering starting a business, EVERYONE can learn a thing or two. The first short yet informative ebook - "TwitterForAll" comes out on 30th December

The key to success for any business, large or small, is understanding that social networking is NOT about selling your product or service.

“You're crazy, That's the whole point of my business!”>

Yes, the aim of your business is to make a profit, however, when you bring your business into the social networking world the ball game changes. Put it this way, your business in its rawest form is like a lion, going in for the kill and taking no names along the way, you sell your product/service - “cheers, mate! Have a nice day!” - but social media is a cunning animal, it is able to either build your reputation or destroy it. So you too, must become cunning. You must become what you are trying to conquer, social.

Student Protests: Now What?

So, the government have voted to raise the tuition fees, let's not act shocked, we already knew it was inevitable and all protests and lobbying were held in vain. I mean come on, let's not kid ourselves,  look how many thousands or people marched in protest against the Iraq war. We all know what happened then. In fact, all those who protested will know what the poor gentlemen who sit outside Parliament every day protesting about various causes feel like by now.

"I'm not perfect" – Disability and young people -What Parents Need to Know

In a society where being “perfect” is praised and imperfect despised, raising disabled children was never going to be easy. It is even harder for the disabled child.



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Being hearing impaired myself, I have experienced this first-hand; at times it is a feeling of isolation, of frustration at not having the same faculties as everyone else, even a sense of injustice.

How we may be perceived by others always is a problem for a disabled child, the fear of reprimand and rejection causes them to retreat into solitude, their own personal world where they can feel safe being themselves.

For 10 years, I had a hearing problem without knowing, a series of hearing tests and a diagnostic later, I was fitted with a hearing aid. The self-consciousness that came with it was overwhelming, at first I found it hard to adapt, but after a while I noticed the benefits and embraced it. My mother and the people around me were always supportive and encouraged me to be bold. The first few years were fine, you tend to notice that younger children are less reprimanding than older children, based on their exposure to the world.

Super-Size me? More Like Categorize Me

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Yeah, so you get the point. The country is getting fatter. Yeah. Great, off to the gym we go! Oh wait, but how can we do that when the government is planning to cut back sports in schools? Hm, curious. We'll get to that another time. This time the focus is whether super-sizing children are the problem or if the name-calling and chronic categorization of young people is the problem.

Let me throw some random categorical facts at you:

• In a classroom of 30 students there are 1 to 3 children with ADHD.


• Just under one million 16 to 24 year olds were classified as Neet according to the figures, a rise of almost 100,000 on the same quarter the previous year.


• HSE 2008 report shows that around three in ten boys and girls aged 2 to 15 were classed as either overweight or obese (31% and 29% respectively)

Class divide? Parents, what class is YOUR child?

I've noticed a lot of talk about the "widening gap in classes" in society, you know - "Rich vs Poor", "Upper Class vs Working Class". Yeah, OK, that's all well and good.

When I consider the different classes and reflect on my upbringing, I realise I was not brought up as a working class child, nor was I brought up as middle class, hell, I wasn't even brought up as upper class. However, nowadays, no matter which class I am in the presence of I feel equal to them. But why? Why do I not shy in the presence of those "highly esteemed" human beings but others do?

I believe it boils down to how you are brought up. It is psychologically proven that if you label someone an "idiot" or something along those lines, long enough the person will begin to fulfil the characteristics within the boundaries of an "idiot". My mother did not bring me up with a sense that I was constrained to a particular class, so as far as i was concerned, "mate, I can do whatever I like, be whatever I want to be! And hell, with anyone who tells me otherwise!"

Dear Parents, Teachers and Adults of the World....FEAR HAS GRIPPED YOU!

Now, let us talk about fear. Fear is the greatest impediment to progress, it stops us from making the tough decisions, from doing what we KNOW is right.

It stops us from handing out the due process, from laying down the law firmly, from confiscating the blackberrys and ipods, are you catching my drift?

Yes, dear parents, teachers and adults, you fear your young and this could never be a good thing.

Since when was a direct order, an executive decision from a parent or teacher an opportunity to negotiate? When I was growing up, the word ‘negotiation’ was not a part of my vocabulary, but, somehow, young people have gained more power.

This is, you could say, down to the fact that they have been GIVEN more power, through government policies that exert extreme measures of safety around young people or it could just be down to the fact that parents have let the government do THEIR job.

You see, I’m not convinced your parents would be happy to see that your child has a seat on the decision-making forum in your household, because your parents brought you up to show respect to your elders, have good mannerisms, show empathy to your fellow man/woman. They told you that if you worked hard you would be successful, your father passed on his trade, your mother passed on the traits of a highly respectable woman. Where did it all go wrong?

So, who exactly Am I?

I've been occasionally blogging here for under a year but who I am and what I have achieved I have never really explained, even in the 'About Me' section of this blog.

So, I am going to take a few moments, so sit right there and I'll tell you the story of who I am and what I have achieved.

My name is Sabian Muhammad. I am a 22 year old award-winning youth advocate, public speaker, presenter, social entrepeneur, Olympic Youth Panelist, school worker and soon-to-be author

That's the easy explanation anyone can do that, but there is more.

I have worked with young people for the last 7 years, in schools, colleges and youth clubs around the country. My work, at first, was primarily with young people working as a stop-gap between adults in their schools and youth clubs helping them to understand each other. I have always been passionate about helping adults understand the young and find ways to communicate with them. I started in my local youth club at 15 years old helping out with organising activities for young people. I was there for 5 years as a volunteer before I moved on. In the years I was there I had a variety of jobs elsewhere including the role of play worker in a primary school.

But you don't really need to know all this, you want to know where the light switch moment is, at what point did I begin to start making real waves, and that occurred on 10th July 2009 when I spoke in the House Of Lords.

This was the third time in history non-Lords were permitted to speak in the Chamber. The topic was 'Education vs Talent: Is education responsible for developing talent?' - I was the closing speaker for the event and opened my statement by saying: "The educational system is not designed to develop talent, the educational system is designed to ensure that society is kept running in future." The rest, they say is HISTORY. See the video below for snippets of the speech.

So, are the kids still not interested in their future?

“The winter of discontent”, yes, that was it’s name in 1978-1979, a good 10 years before I was born. With widespread strikes by local authority trade unions who were trying to secure larger pay rises for their members brought the country to a standstill.

“Are we entering another ‘Winter of Discontent’?” is a question many have asked after the recent spate of trade union strikes.

Another winter of discontent? Not likely, the kind of power the trade unions had back in the 70s when the country was reliant on coal and mining caused more shock-waves, than we could see now. What we ARE seeing now though, is an all-out revolt from young people, under the guise of student protests.

Do not be fooled, the country is swiftly losing the confidence of its future generation.

Two weeks ago, we saw student protests turn ugly and the Tories’ HQ bore the brunt of the damage.

Yesterday, the students returned again with mass walk-outs from university and secondary school students around the UK, oh deary me!

This raises a question from me, in fact, from thousands of young people around the UK to adults - “Do you still think we are not interested in our future?”

Gangs – Thugs or family?

The following post is an excerpt from my upcoming ebook "Why Do for Parents" - a short and concise guide, which breaks down the thought processes of young people and helps adults - parents in particular - understand why their children act a particular way and provide them with possible solutions.

Most of these young people are the products of what many media outlets call “broken Britain” - broken homes and dysfunctional families.

No matter what a young person says to an adult about whether they need help or advice from them, it is the duty of adults to provide it anyway. Resistance will always be there.

So what could possibly be the contributor to young people hanging around in gangs, in fact, what are gangs?

The answer could be social neglect, this is more than a generation gap, this is a total disconnection. Adults need to do more to connect with their young. This is not about adults rediscovering their youth, this is about the older generation taking responsibility for the very beings they brought into this world.

Young people are growing up in homes where they barely see their parents, who work 9 to 5/6/7 even 8 in the evening; where, in their schools from a young age they are branded and categorised and have to carry these tags for the rest of their educational years; where, in society they are called delinquents thugs, and anti-social. This is three areas where neglect of young people is occurring and such treatment causes them to form a body within which they feel safe and secure, where there is trust and possibly 'love'.

Why Should Adults Validate the Existence of Young People? #Via www.whydo.co.uk

Full Question:

"Why do you think people with more life experience than most of you should bother themselves with validating your existence? We've been there 'n got the Tee-shirt, apart from a newer (and much poorer) vocabulary what could we possibly have to learn - other than the eternal arrogance of some young people is undiminished? One day you'll be embarrassed by this." #Via www.whydo.co.uk

Interesting question. For all the life experience adults undoubtedly have, why are young people in the state they are in? Because adults do not reach out to them, you do not share your life experience with us.

Validating existence, now this is very condescending, I was under the impression that the REASON we exist is because your generation BROUGHT us into existence. The very statement tells me you have no regard for the very beings you have brought on to this earth.

Yes, young people are arrogant, why?

Why do so many young people not want to do well at school?

{#Via www.whydo.co.uk}

Lack of interest. - That is the simple answer, the easy answer.

But if we take it deeper and look at why this is the case then maybe we can pinpoint the missing links.

When I was growing up I was taught to love learning, I was encouraged to be curious, to ask questions to explore my environment.

Although I was taught at home, I always saw every morning as an opportunity to learn something new, I loved learning.

In today's society, I don't get the impression that young people enjoy learning, when I work in schools I don't get the feeling that I am in an environment that fosters curiosity. Curiosity is part of the innocence of youth, every child needs to understand their environment and learning is an important part of that.

Somewhere along the line, young people lost their innocence, somewhere along the line they lost their natural curiosity. In order to stop this backward trend we need to go back and identify the glitch that causes young people to go from budding academics to unruly "delinquents".

Adults - Do You Remember?

Do you remember when...your close friends became strangers,
lollipops turned into cigarettes,
the innocent ones turned into sluts,
homework goes in the trash,
soda became vodka,
kisses turned into sex?

Remember when getting high meant swinging on the playground?
When protection meant wearing a helmet?
When the worst thing you could get from boys/girls were cooties?
Dads shoulders were the highest place on earth and mom was your hero?
Your worst enemies were your siblings.
Race issues were about who ran the fastest,
the only drug you knew was cough medicine,
wearing a skirt didn't make you a slut,
the only thing that hurt you was skinned knees
and goodbyes only meant until tomorrow?
And we just couldn't wait to grow up...

What a change in life!!
Visit www.whydo.co.uk and ask a young person why they do what they do TODAY!

This Week's Top 5 Areas of Interest on WhyDo.co.uk

Every week I will collate the 5 most pressing issues adults have asked on Whydo.co.uk.

Get your questions in at www.whydo.co.uk!

1. Communities

• Why Do young people binge drink


• Why Do young people hang around in groups outside shops

2. Politics

• Why do young people vote liberal rather than conservative?


• Why do young pople not follow politics?

3. Music

• What is the name of the dubstep song on the whydo advert?


• Why do you think young people are so good at discovering new music?

4. Family

• Why do young people fall out with their parents so often?


• Why do young people spend so much time in their bedrooms than with their family?

5. Education

• Why do young people take their education for granted?


• Why do young people not seem keen on getting good grades?

Visit www.WhyDo.co.uk and ask a question now!

Are these questions important to you? Would you like to see these questions answered?

 

Why do....I always have to ask young people questions instead of them offering conversation? #Via www.whydo.co.uk

Ha! Now Honestly, young people just DO NOT TRUST ADULTS. Furthermore, adults do not trust young people!

The media shines a negative light on young people and adults have jumped on the bandwagon. A young person only confides in someone they trust NOT to judge them and unfortunately, all they have known is judgement rather than understanding and they will not, under any circumstances, open up to someone they do not trust.

In order to gain a young person’s trust you need to show genuine understanding, and interest in them. It will take a lot to break down the barriers that are put up, but at the end of the day, the indoctrination of adults against young people is the reason why those barriers are there in the first place.

Would you trust someone who repetitively punched you in the face and then tried to start a conversation with you after, especially if that person is someone you expect to guide and develop you?

Why Do.....Girls Act With Masculine Traits Nowadays? #Via whydo.co.uk

A lot more girls hang around boys and to be accepted or taken seriously they tend to act like the boys they hang around. It is a form of acceptance, many females are taken advantage of by males and to counter this it is better for them to appear to also have masculine and aggressive features.

On top of this, there are also many girl-gangs and these gangs need to have a ruthlessness that is not natural for females. Yeah, it’s not really a pleasant thing to read but it is the reality.

Girls don’t want to be seen as step overs, doormats or sex dolls, they want respect and in order to get that in a predominantly male environment they have to become their environment.

Sabian Launches 'Why Do'

I’ve had a busy week, I’ve just launched a unique online question & answer service which encourages adults to ask young people why they do the things they do.

Called ‘Why Do’ the campaign is all about bridging the generation gap and encouraging adults and young people to work together!

Have you ever wondered why young people walk with their pants below their waist, or listen to their music through the speakers on their phones or you just want to know why they are “disrespectful” then WHYDO.CO.UK is for you!

Men! Who, What, Where are you?

Who are you?

It’s getting a bit ridiculous now, there are too many articles today trying to define what a man is, the worse part; most of them are in Men’s Mags.

What has caused such a sudden digression in the standards of men that we question our identity? The great Don Draper would be turning in his fictional grave, no doubt about it. Mad Men reignited old fashioned values, although somewhat biased in favour of men, it re-instilled the basic understanding of what a ‘man’ should be; hard-working, immaculately dressed, courteous, family centred (the Mad Men portrayal of this is questionable) and a provider. Mad Men is all about the macho man, the alpha male, if you may.

Take time to THINK - It is the source of all power

Over the course of the next 10 days I am going to blog a line from a poem I posted earlier today called 'Take Time', the poem is relevant to us more so now, as we have little time and very little consideration of what we do, so, maybe with a little nudge in the right direction we will start to take more notice of the things we take for granted in this day and age.

Take Time to Think - It is the source of all power

We think everyday, think about what we are going to wear, think about how much we need on our oyster card, think about what we are going to have for lunch, but our thoughts are not or rarely do make us the productive beings we ought to be. Perhaps, 'thought' and 'power' are not generally accepted as inter-related, how relevant is thought to gaining the success we desire? In recent years, more authors have brought forward the idea of thought being the driving force in the universe.

Take Time

Take time to THINK - It is the source of all power

Take time to READ - It is the fountain of wisdom

Take time to BE QUIET - It is the opportunity to help others

Take time to LOVE and BE LOVED - It is God's greatest gift

Take time to LAUGH - It is the music of the soul

Take time to DREAM - It is what the future is made of

Take time to PLAY - It is the secret to staying young

Take time to be FRIENDLY - It is the road to happiness

Take time to WORK - It is the secret to success

What Cameron did next...

A month goes fast doesn't it? Next weekend will mark the first month since the elections and in two weeks the coalition government will have been in power for a month also.

So what did David Cameron & co do next?

The most evident action would be last week's £6billion 'emergency spending cuts'. A very big step; whether or not it is in the right direction, we have yet to find out.

I’m Still Here…!

How's it going guys,

Yeah, I know it has been a while since I last put a post up, I've been busy with different projects and events.

So, I haven't forgotten about you all.

It's an interesting time for the UK, elections around the corner, I have had numerous, leaflets come through my letterbox, particularly from Conservatives, this is really new, we NEVER get anything from the Conservatives here, must be aart of David Cameron's idea of 'Change'...

Nick Clegg emerged as a surprise winner in the first TV debate, and who is he again?
But that is exactly The point, the public want something new, unheard of, and going from the massive badges constituency members have been wearing in their local towns in their election drive, not much has changed, I vaguely remember John Major wearing exactly the same badges, you know, bigger than your chest, frilly with two ribbons hanging from it? Ring a bell?

Is a hung Parliament such a bad idea, one of my friends pointed out, that if we have all the leaders in one place, the public could then draw and quarter them...

Well, May 6th the public will vote, wow, thats next week, I still haven't decided whose side I'm on...Not even Michael Caine supporting the Cons could convince me to jump onto the 'Change' bandwagon...

so you know...how The Knight told Indiana Jones to choose the Cup of Christ wisely?

I say to you, Vote Wisely.

CIAO!

Mother's Love, Like no other.....

"A mother's love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dares all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path."
-- Agatha Christie

Mothers' Day, 14th March, every year. We celebrate mothers around the world, show them our appreciation and care for a day, just a day.

If England don't win the World Cup, who will be the scapegoat?

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I think bookies could make A LOT of money off the above question in the upcoming World Cup finals.

I mean, every major tournament that England has failed to win, there has been someone to ease the pain of failure by taking the flak. In1998, it was David Beckham's silly red card. in 2002, it was Ronaldinho's "fluke" goal/David Seaman's ageing process. In 2006, it was Ronaldo with the infamous "winking" incident which apparently got Rooney sent off.

Every tournament, the country is not without an excuse.

SabianM@ Media Election conference (When Envoys' Den met Dragons' Den)

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With the success achieved by the Obama campaign team in the run up to the Presidential elections using social media, the question has been asked, "how influential will social media be in the upcoming General Elections?"

'Ladies are complicated but...'

Honestly, ladies are complicated!

I know arguments like this pop up all the time, according to surveys, which no one is willing to claim, one argument between males and females is started every 12 minutes, how many a year figure it out for your self.

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The plain cold fact is girls may not be so much as expertly complicated as they are adept at complicating OF situations. But, here is the thing guys, the more we complain about female complication is the more we add TO the complicated situation, I hypothesise this to be true because if you spend a day in a salon, which I have, it is like a battle to see who can come up with the most complaints about men, in other words, if you complain about her she will dig 5 complaints about you, then you’ll have to hire yourself a lawyer to help with your defence.

David Cameron - Family First

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Who remembers when David Cameron first came on to the scene as the leader of the Conservatives? I, for one, most certainly do. Not many people are willing to let him forget about that now infamous suggestion that in order to cut crime we should all, "Hug-a-Thug". If you are being serious with yourself and look at it rationally you can see he had good intentions, maybe just not the best of implementations. If you're not being serious with yourself, well no-one takes you seriously anyway.

Shag Bands? Rainbow Parties? What happened to child innocence?

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It’s not often that something in the news shocks me: Political expenses row (which explains why the country is in a such a ridiculous state), Paris Hilton’s apparent boob job (who cares?) and Elton John attempting to adopt a kid somewhere in eastern Europe (publicity stunt anyone?). But recently I read an article in the Sun that forced me to pay attention, imagine that, the SUN writing an article that shocks me, curious. But anyway, the article was basically showing how far out of touch the current adult generation are with the upcoming youth.

It’s shocking enough to see young people playing ‘Wild West’ on the streets of UK, but hearing that children as young as 7 are being herded into acts of promiscuity, you can bloody well bet your life, house and savings that I’ll have something to say.

'Are You A Virgin My Friend?'

Today society is so warped in sexual hyperboles (that means ‘exaggerations’

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for those who like their words purveyed in simple form), that being a 'virgin' is considered to be a) a new form of STI or b) a new archaeological find somewhere in the Dead Sea.  Some people will never be allowed to live freely if they were found to be.......sexually lacking in experience, for want of a better term.

Back up in Manchester while I was training with the rest of my colleagues, we frequently had night-time socials at one of the houses. On one particular beer/wine/vodka/tequila filled night, I watched as my colleagues began playing a Uni student drinking favourite, “never have I ever” (if you haven’t heard of it I don’t intend to waste time explaining it, although I could have explained it in this bracket. Tough times, you!), as you do, it all revolved around sex.

John Terry, Ashley Cole and Vernon Kay - Letting the Guys down!

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It's been an emotional time in the news, alot has happened in the last month or so.

Haiti was blitzed and is still suffering, erm, a fashion icon who hanged himself (I don't follow fashion so i don't know who all you ladies are crying about...) and most importantly for me as a guy, more news of male infidelity. Can we have a *collective sigh* please?

It all started this year with John Terry, crazy guy makes millions and sleeps with an ex team-mates girlfriend/fiancee/babymother, that's bad enough, but add the fact that he also got her pregnant, paid for her to have, what the tabloids called, a "lucrative" abortion and we have a whole new meaning for the term, "Men are dogs."

I guess, he is lucky he is a footballer, only so much damage can be done if you have a ball kicked at you, beats getting chased with your own golf clubs, eh?