Why do....I always have to ask young people questions instead of them offering conversation? #Via www.whydo.co.uk

Ha! Now Honestly, young people just DO NOT TRUST ADULTS. Furthermore, adults do not trust young people!

The media shines a negative light on young people and adults have jumped on the bandwagon. A young person only confides in someone they trust NOT to judge them and unfortunately, all they have known is judgement rather than understanding and they will not, under any circumstances, open up to someone they do not trust.

In order to gain a young person’s trust you need to show genuine understanding, and interest in them. It will take a lot to break down the barriers that are put up, but at the end of the day, the indoctrination of adults against young people is the reason why those barriers are there in the first place.

Would you trust someone who repetitively punched you in the face and then tried to start a conversation with you after, especially if that person is someone you expect to guide and develop you?

Yes, deep down young people want guidance and help, but it is not there, what they have is misconception, pre-determined impressions and bad media spotlight on them.

Even in the educational system, which should be developing young people, you find that instead they are given labels to describe their function and personality. Branded “stupid” “unruly” “disruptive” with no attempts from the teachers to find out exactly what may be causing this behaviour. Most times a child acting in a negative way is a call for help, it is a sign that something is wrong, but as they do not know how to express themselves positively, again due to lack of communication, they resort to the only way they know how, negative outlet. How can I prove this, when a baby is hungry it cries, the long it waits to get what it wants is the more blood curdling and intense the cries become.

If you want a young person to conversate with adults, the adult must first put a hand out, gradually try to understand them, and be persistent; a young person can sense how genuine you are if you are undeterred by their ramblings and tantrums and show determination to get through to them. Too many adults give up when the going gets tough, this is another reason why there is a lack of understanding between the older and younger generations.

Stick in there, persevere and young people WILL open up.

- Do you think there be a change in how adults and young people interact?

- Take a look at how long it can take to calm a crying baby down, can you see the similarities in how long it takes to get through to the true cause of a young person’s problems?