Gangs – Thugs or family?

The following post is an excerpt from my upcoming ebook "Why Do for Parents" - a short and concise guide, which breaks down the thought processes of young people and helps adults - parents in particular - understand why their children act a particular way and provide them with possible solutions.

Most of these young people are the products of what many media outlets call “broken Britain” - broken homes and dysfunctional families.

No matter what a young person says to an adult about whether they need help or advice from them, it is the duty of adults to provide it anyway. Resistance will always be there.

So what could possibly be the contributor to young people hanging around in gangs, in fact, what are gangs?

The answer could be social neglect, this is more than a generation gap, this is a total disconnection. Adults need to do more to connect with their young. This is not about adults rediscovering their youth, this is about the older generation taking responsibility for the very beings they brought into this world.

Young people are growing up in homes where they barely see their parents, who work 9 to 5/6/7 even 8 in the evening; where, in their schools from a young age they are branded and categorised and have to carry these tags for the rest of their educational years; where, in society they are called delinquents thugs, and anti-social. This is three areas where neglect of young people is occurring and such treatment causes them to form a body within which they feel safe and secure, where there is trust and possibly 'love'.

Why Should Adults Validate the Existence of Young People? #Via www.whydo.co.uk

Full Question:

"Why do you think people with more life experience than most of you should bother themselves with validating your existence? We've been there 'n got the Tee-shirt, apart from a newer (and much poorer) vocabulary what could we possibly have to learn - other than the eternal arrogance of some young people is undiminished? One day you'll be embarrassed by this." #Via www.whydo.co.uk

Interesting question. For all the life experience adults undoubtedly have, why are young people in the state they are in? Because adults do not reach out to them, you do not share your life experience with us.

Validating existence, now this is very condescending, I was under the impression that the REASON we exist is because your generation BROUGHT us into existence. The very statement tells me you have no regard for the very beings you have brought on to this earth.

Yes, young people are arrogant, why?

Why do so many young people not want to do well at school?

{#Via www.whydo.co.uk}

Lack of interest. - That is the simple answer, the easy answer.

But if we take it deeper and look at why this is the case then maybe we can pinpoint the missing links.

When I was growing up I was taught to love learning, I was encouraged to be curious, to ask questions to explore my environment.

Although I was taught at home, I always saw every morning as an opportunity to learn something new, I loved learning.

In today's society, I don't get the impression that young people enjoy learning, when I work in schools I don't get the feeling that I am in an environment that fosters curiosity. Curiosity is part of the innocence of youth, every child needs to understand their environment and learning is an important part of that.

Somewhere along the line, young people lost their innocence, somewhere along the line they lost their natural curiosity. In order to stop this backward trend we need to go back and identify the glitch that causes young people to go from budding academics to unruly "delinquents".

Adults - Do You Remember?

Do you remember when...your close friends became strangers,
lollipops turned into cigarettes,
the innocent ones turned into sluts,
homework goes in the trash,
soda became vodka,
kisses turned into sex?

Remember when getting high meant swinging on the playground?
When protection meant wearing a helmet?
When the worst thing you could get from boys/girls were cooties?
Dads shoulders were the highest place on earth and mom was your hero?
Your worst enemies were your siblings.
Race issues were about who ran the fastest,
the only drug you knew was cough medicine,
wearing a skirt didn't make you a slut,
the only thing that hurt you was skinned knees
and goodbyes only meant until tomorrow?
And we just couldn't wait to grow up...

What a change in life!!
Visit www.whydo.co.uk and ask a young person why they do what they do TODAY!

This Week's Top 5 Areas of Interest on WhyDo.co.uk

Every week I will collate the 5 most pressing issues adults have asked on Whydo.co.uk.

Get your questions in at www.whydo.co.uk!

1. Communities

• Why Do young people binge drink


• Why Do young people hang around in groups outside shops

2. Politics

• Why do young people vote liberal rather than conservative?


• Why do young pople not follow politics?

3. Music

• What is the name of the dubstep song on the whydo advert?


• Why do you think young people are so good at discovering new music?

4. Family

• Why do young people fall out with their parents so often?


• Why do young people spend so much time in their bedrooms than with their family?

5. Education

• Why do young people take their education for granted?


• Why do young people not seem keen on getting good grades?

Visit www.WhyDo.co.uk and ask a question now!

Are these questions important to you? Would you like to see these questions answered?

 

Why do....I always have to ask young people questions instead of them offering conversation? #Via www.whydo.co.uk

Ha! Now Honestly, young people just DO NOT TRUST ADULTS. Furthermore, adults do not trust young people!

The media shines a negative light on young people and adults have jumped on the bandwagon. A young person only confides in someone they trust NOT to judge them and unfortunately, all they have known is judgement rather than understanding and they will not, under any circumstances, open up to someone they do not trust.

In order to gain a young person’s trust you need to show genuine understanding, and interest in them. It will take a lot to break down the barriers that are put up, but at the end of the day, the indoctrination of adults against young people is the reason why those barriers are there in the first place.

Would you trust someone who repetitively punched you in the face and then tried to start a conversation with you after, especially if that person is someone you expect to guide and develop you?

Why Do.....Girls Act With Masculine Traits Nowadays? #Via whydo.co.uk

A lot more girls hang around boys and to be accepted or taken seriously they tend to act like the boys they hang around. It is a form of acceptance, many females are taken advantage of by males and to counter this it is better for them to appear to also have masculine and aggressive features.

On top of this, there are also many girl-gangs and these gangs need to have a ruthlessness that is not natural for females. Yeah, it’s not really a pleasant thing to read but it is the reality.

Girls don’t want to be seen as step overs, doormats or sex dolls, they want respect and in order to get that in a predominantly male environment they have to become their environment.

Sabian Launches 'Why Do'

I’ve had a busy week, I’ve just launched a unique online question & answer service which encourages adults to ask young people why they do the things they do.

Called ‘Why Do’ the campaign is all about bridging the generation gap and encouraging adults and young people to work together!

Have you ever wondered why young people walk with their pants below their waist, or listen to their music through the speakers on their phones or you just want to know why they are “disrespectful” then WHYDO.CO.UK is for you!

Men! Who, What, Where are you?

Who are you?

It’s getting a bit ridiculous now, there are too many articles today trying to define what a man is, the worse part; most of them are in Men’s Mags.

What has caused such a sudden digression in the standards of men that we question our identity? The great Don Draper would be turning in his fictional grave, no doubt about it. Mad Men reignited old fashioned values, although somewhat biased in favour of men, it re-instilled the basic understanding of what a ‘man’ should be; hard-working, immaculately dressed, courteous, family centred (the Mad Men portrayal of this is questionable) and a provider. Mad Men is all about the macho man, the alpha male, if you may.