'Are You A Virgin My Friend?'

Today society is so warped in sexual hyperboles (that means ‘exaggerations’

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for those who like their words purveyed in simple form), that being a 'virgin' is considered to be a) a new form of STI or b) a new archaeological find somewhere in the Dead Sea.  Some people will never be allowed to live freely if they were found to be.......sexually lacking in experience, for want of a better term.

Back up in Manchester while I was training with the rest of my colleagues, we frequently had night-time socials at one of the houses. On one particular beer/wine/vodka/tequila filled night, I watched as my colleagues began playing a Uni student drinking favourite, “never have I ever” (if you haven’t heard of it I don’t intend to waste time explaining it, although I could have explained it in this bracket. Tough times, you!), as you do, it all revolved around sex.

As, they all did their best to expose their sexual activities with pride, there was one individual who had lifted his pint and drank a bit at every “never have I ever”. I found this weird, fair enough, many guys have, worryingly, extremely audacious sex lives, but when guy drinks to everything said, you do have to ask questions. A female colleague of mine bellowed (trick statement), ‘never have i ever had sex for 7 hours straight,’ collective suspicions were confirmed.

“Are you a virgin my friend,” she asked him calmly.

“No,” he replied

“Oh yeah? Whats the longest you’ve had sex with a girl?” she asked suddenly feeling like I was in an episode of Sherlock Holmes or Law & Order.

“About 7 and a half hours give or take...but you know that’s including all the licking out..and foreplay.”

He actually was trying to bluff his way out of this!

“Really? You must be a real good actor and have a real strong jaw to be doing all that for 6 hours, what do you take me for, you, my friend are a virgin!” she proclaimed doing everything in her power to hide her savage delight.

Silence in the room.......well except for a few crunches of crisps, but at that moment I began thinking.

If he had come straight he would have been able to leave with his 'dignity

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and respect' intact, but he attempted to be something or someone he was not. Such, is the pressure young people feel when they are among friends.

There is nothing bad in being a virgin, but trying to make yourself fit in with your peers, most times, blows up in your face. This was one of those occasions.

So what’s the general perception of a virgin these days I wonder, in these shocking times, I would not be surprised if you were given a hard time for being 14 and a virgin such is the extent of the sexual malaise.

The value and chastity of being a virgin has been lost.

Now, don’t get me wrong here, I’m not advocating that being a virgin is wrong, in fact I’m advocating that being a virgin and trying to pass yourself off as an experienced super-stud justifies authentic sexual deviants taking the view that to be a virgin is to blaspheme against a sex-crazed-society.

Nowadays, finding a virgin is like finding a pink diamond, very prestigious but once found, followed by corrupt and manipulative individuals who want to devour the potential for their own satisfaction.

Things can only get worse, recently I read in a newspaper that one child “expert” suggested that the age of legal consent for sex should be lowered to 13 years old, “13???” I asked, “At 13 I was writing down girls’ house numbers on the back of my weekly travel card and sex didn’t even come into the equation!”

Here, the issue is not teaching young people how to apply contraceptives or where they can get a 'morning-after' pill, the issue is how do you protect children and young people from a sexualised society, where peer pressure is even more influential than it was 10 years ago?

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One thing you can credit every generation for observing as if it was some kind of unwritten rule is the fact that whatever is legal we set out to do the illegal, so if 13 became the legal age my nephew will be having sex at 10, not-a-chance-in-hell.

The fact that conversations between adult and child about sex are considered to be taboo, really doesn't help. In Amsterdam, children are taught about sex from the age of 7, this contributes to one of the lowest rates of teenage pregnancies, imagine that, in a city famed for its 'red light districts'.

So where did we lose the value in keeping our dignity? I hate to speculate or apportion blame, but I jus wouldn’t feel at peace unless I did, that said, I blame sexualisation, in media particularly.

One underlying, value that MUST be created is Adult-Youth interaction on serious issues that affect them both. Young people are not the only affected parties when it comes to sex adults are too, why not discuss this?Common ground between the two must be found in order to ensure that the future is secure...now, nightcap anyone?